For the last few months I’ve been writing about the relationship between good coaching mindsets and great coaching skillsets. It is my belief that the most effective way to build great coaching skills is to adopt some basic coaching mindsets than can really add power to your coaching conversations and coaching relationships.
In my final installment in this blog series (YES, I’m going to write about something different in 2017!) I want to talk about another mindset that leads to great coaching skills. We’ve talked about the mindset of believing our clients are healthy, creative and resourceful…and in this post I want to tweak that mindset just a bit to include the belief that our “client is the expert in her/his life.” It is important to believe in a general sense that our clients are healthy, creative and resourceful…in other words they “have it in them”. But beyond that, I want to invite you to believe that your client is indeed the EXPERT in her/his life.
What all is wrapped up in that statement? What are all the ways in which that is true? Consider this – the client is the ONLY one who knows:
- How they are feeling about the issue they’ve raised
- What they’ve thought about it in the past
- What they’ve done about it in the past
- Who else is involved in the situation
- How the client feels about the other person(s)
- What the client believes about the other person(s)
- How often the client has thought about this issue
- How frustrated they are with how things are currently
- How hopeful they are about what could be
- How confident they are in their own abilities to resolve the issue
- What God has been saying to them
- What other voices have been saying to them
I hope you can see that this list could go on and on. I could double it just with what I’ve already considered in the last few minutes, but I’ll stop there for brevity’s sake. It doesn’t take very many of these for us to realize just how inadequate we are to come up with any solutions or direction for our clients. THEY REALLY ARE THE EXPERTS!