Worth Doing Badly

A Blog Post by Brian Miller

Discipleship is the most important task I can perform as a Christian. What is discipleship? My first thought is that it is for me to reproduce my Christianity in someone else. I want them to believe what I believe, minister as I minister, and behave as I behave. My second thought was different.

I was listening to a pastor who had committed to investing in four people for one year. He discipled them in weekly meetings, and at the same time, trained them to disciple others. After their year of training, they would then disciple four more people in the church. It would revolutionize their church. It would start slow with only four discipled the first year, but the next year, together, they could disciple twenty. Then the next year, they could disciple one hundred. The fourth year, the could disciple over 500 people. It would be the Book of Acts all over again!

Here’s what really happened. The pastor invested everything he could into these first four, and when it was over, all four refused to disciple anyone else.

“Why?” the pastor begged.

“Because we could never do it as well as you,” they all replied.

The pastor tried too hard. He wanted to give his disciples his absolute best. This turned out to be the wrong choice.

Anything that needs to be reproduced, needs to be reproduced as simply as possible. Don’t add any flourishes. Don’t go above and beyond in your training. Don’t make a point of demonstrating that you know much more that you haven’t even shared.  Show your disciple what to do. Then let them do it.

“Whatever is worth doing is worth doing badly.” – GK Chesterton

Chronos vs Kairos Timeframes

A Blog Post by Chad Hall

When helping clients design actions, it’s important to identify timelines.  After all, real actions take place in real space and time.  Putting a timeframe or timeline to the action will make a conceptual action more concrete and more tangible (thereby increasing the likeliness that the client will take the action).  However, not all action plans lend themselves to putting the action on the calendar.  This is why I tend to think of timeframe in two ways: kairos and chronos.  These two Greek words represent two approaches to time from the New Testament.  Let’s explore them a bit to help you be an even more effective coach when it comes to designing client actions. 

Why Most Meetings Suck… And What You Can Do About It

A Blog Post by Chad Hall

If you are gainfully employed or if you volunteer at church or some other organization, chances are you attend meetings.  Most normally sane people do not care too much for meetings.  Ask for adjectives to describe typical meetings and you’ll get a laundry list of pejoratives: long, boring, waste of time, frustrating, etc.

Why do most meetings suck?  It’s not because meetings are inherently bad.  Some meetings are tolerable and there are even rumors that a few meetings are worthwhile, productive, engaging and even fun.  So what makes bad meetings so bad?  My experience is that there are three common missteps made at the beginning of meetings that contribute to 90% of all meeting malaise:

Control vs Influence: A coach-approach to raising your kids

A Blog Post by Bill Copper

I’ll never forget that day. It was during the Thanksgiving season and my oldest son was home from college for the long weekend. I was fairly new to coaching at the time and my relationship with Chuck could be characterized this way: I would tell him what he should do….he wouldn’t do it….and then we would argue about it….about the consequences, about his ignoring his dad’s impressive wisdom…and we would find ourselves at odds over and over again.

On this particular afternoon, Chuck was home from school and telling me about his latest (mis)adventures as part of a fraternity. He was lamenting the fact that it cost more than he had been told, required more time, and made demands that he was finding onerous. I reminded him of conversations we’d had during which I had warned him of these very things. And then Chuck said something that I guess I knew instinctively, but hadn’t ever heard out loud: He said (and I quote), “Well, Dad…just because you tell me something doesn’t mean I’m going to listen to you.”

Yep…he said it just like that. And while I knew this was true, and probably SHOULD be true, it was a profound moment to actually face this truth head on.