Coaching is all about questions.  Questions help people sort out their thinking.  But one question we try not to ask is “Why?”  And it is the question we want to ask, isn’t it? Why did you make that choice? Why can’t you let that go? Why can’t you get here on time?  “Why questions tend

Your situation is unique.  Absolutely nobody has the exact same situation.  But plenty of people have advice for your situation.  They would like you to do “this” or “that”. But it is never that obvious how you are to make “this” work in your situation.  This has been my experience as a pastor of a

When I think of coaching, I immediately think of sports.  I remember my High School coach telling us there were a lot of kids who couldn’t walk who wished they could do wind sprint after wind sprint.  He coached mainly through criticism, which worked for me on a temporary basis and totally failed to motivate

Okay, I admit it: I love Will Ferrell movies.  While sometimes a little too off color, I enjoy the antics of the crazy characters Ferrell plays – characters he describes as having “unearned confidence.” Unearned confidence.  That two-word phrase brings up all kinds of images, some of which are not nearly as funny as Ricky

For a few weeks now I have been in a book study with some other Christian leaders in my home city. We are reading Bonhoeffer’s classic book Life Together. It’s a great read and one that has tremendous insight and application for our day. As a Christian coach, I was especially humbled by one particular