Blog – Concepts That Create Distinctions

  A phrase I keep hearing over and over lately was made prominent by author Brené Brown: clear is kind; unclear is unkind.  The context for the phrase is leadership and the tendency to avoid tough conversation, “including giving honest, productive feedback.”  Brown pinpoints that a culture of being “nice and polite” provides cover for

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  In one of our coach training classes (CAM 505 The Language of Coaching), we talk about helping clients make distinctions. That is, helping a client clarify between two related, but not synonymous, words or phrases. Making a distinction unclouds confusion and often brings fresh and invigorating freedom. For example, a common distinction involves the

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  As professional coaches, we are familiar with limiting beliefs – those assumptions, perceptions, thoughts, and attitudes that hold people back.  We see the impact of such beliefs with our clients on a regular basis and in a variety of forms:  A business owner believes her worth is found in her professional success.    A salesman

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  In my work with leaders and organizations, trust is a perennial topic of coaching sessions.  This focus makes sense.  After all, when an organization is trying to perform at a high level, trust is a necessary ingredient (perhaps THE necessary ingredient).  Why?  Because the need for trust is everywhere.  It’s a factor in communication,

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  Sometimes otherwise positive messages get absorbed too deeply into one’s psyche.  Here’s an example from my own life: “Winners never quit, and quitters never win.”    I grew up playing sports.  So have my three children.  I must have heard this saying over a hundred times in those contexts, and, for the most part, it

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  About an hour before the tornado destroyed his home, Craig was observing the pigs. Sometimes animals seem to know more about storm intensity than we do. He said the pigs were more agitated than usual. “I watch them for about 30 minutes every night after I feed them.” His comment caught me a bit

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